IComLeavWe

They look the same, but they're all different

I recently found this community for support for my miscarriage and infertility woes.  Courtney of Bodegabliss led me to to it a few weeks ago.
Blogger, Stirrup Queens initiated this community and describes it as such:

ICLW:  It stands for International Comment Leaving Week, but if you say it aloud, doesn’t it sounds (sic)  like “I come; [but] leave [as a] we”? And that’s sort of the point. Blogging is a conversation and comments should be honoured and encouraged. I like to say that comments are the new hug–a way of saying hello, giving comfort, leaving congratulations. 

It’s a little bit daunting to get through the website at first as all the categories are laid out in a seemingly perfunctory fashion.  But when one gets their bearings, it is actually set out in a very organized manner, with her navigation page and this Library of Congress-like list of blogs to peruse very helpful. Stirrup Queens’ website is like a database, indexed and labeled according to the categories to assist and steer the audience towards the infinitely confusing world of  infertility. SQ had laid it out so that there’s something for everybody with the IF conundrum, written in lay terms and have real people help add information according to their varied experiences. Even before the intended ICLW week, I’ve actually started corresponding with some of the awesome and supporttive bloggers already, mainly: Bodegabliss, EggsinaRow, Endo&Beyond and MommyOdyssey. I will have to amend my Blog Love page in a few days. Being a newbie to this initiative, I’m not exactly sure whether I’m keeping par with the commenting I’m supposed to do this week.  I started off a day late, numbering my comments and then just completely forgot how many comments I’ve already left.  It’s a good thing I’m not being graded for this because this is a massive, epic fail on my part.  I think I was supposed to have a post that introduces me to the ICLW world at the beginning of the week but I was so affected by Jack Layton’s passing that that post ended up as my introduction.  Possibly not all that relevant to the ICLW posse, but it was an important event that I needed to talk about; and  this goes for the whole modus operandi of my writing here: life, love, art, travel, politics, pop culture and my roller coaster-like pursuit of motherhood plus whatever else comes to mind.

Anyway…I’m rambling – there, I just lost the 2 people referred by the link.
To the ICLW community, let me introduce myself to you here. Please consider yourself warned with the rants and ramblings of a self-deprecating, irrreverent, sometimes brooding, at times bitter and often times potty-mouthed nutbar. Welcome and thank you very much Melissa, the Stirrups Queen, for your educating and supportive place on the internet.


7 Responses to IComLeavWe

  1. cablearms says:

    it really surprised me how many women are going through what i am in some sort of fashion… it’s actually ridiculous that it’s so prevalent.
    anyway, i’m thankful for ICLW – i found blogs that are very moving and hilarious at the same time. most of the posts could be be mistaken for my own since they’re so familiar.
    and what about Melissa?!! she really has to be one of those people who help hoarders organize their shitty cluttered houses. she’s organized and filed stuff in that website with links coming out the wazoooo!
    i may not sleep in the next few days just trying to catch up with everyone’s blogs.

  2. B says:

    It is quite incredible how you can struggle internally ALONE for months into years with your own thoughts, feelings and rage-only to stumble into someones blog from ICLW or a link off of a link off of a link that that feels so familiar you damn near crap yourself because it is as comfortable of a space as your own bed is. It is also sad that there is so much of this out here :(

  3. Apples says:

    Goodness gracious, I’m so happy we’re not being graded on ICLW because somedays I’m a complete no-show.

    Glad to have “found” each other!

  4. Glad you have found stirrup queens. Hope you find it as helpful as I have.

  5. it was my first time with ICLW as well…such a fab community on-line but yes very said that it’s happening to so many of us.

  6. bodegabliss says:

    I’m so happy to know that I led you to a place where you could feel less alone. That’s the one thing I’ve wanted to do for women since going through this myself. (And by the way, I’ve totally failed at ICLW quite a few times! hehe)

    Sorry I’ve been MIA lately, but I’ve been thinking about you and sending you love.

    • cablearms says:

      don’t be silly – we all lead busy lives. i can’t expect you to comment on every single post on here! but thanks nonetheless for making your presence felt. it’s very much appreciated. xo

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